Why You're Not Married . . . Yet: The Straight ... Official

Be upfront about your desire for marriage. Stop "playing along" with casual arrangements if you want a lifetime commitment.

In her book Tracy McMillan provides a "straight talk" guide designed to help women identify internal blind spots that may be preventing them from securing a committed relationship. The core premise is that marriage is less about "finding" the right person and more about "becoming" the person who can sustain a partnership. The Solid Guide: 6 Core Shifts Based on McMillan's insights, Why You're Not Married . . . Yet: The Straight ...

Marriage is about giving. You must be willing to "go first" in showing care and support without immediate reciprocation. Be upfront about your desire for marriage

Communicate directly. If you feel the need to retaliate for perceived slights, you are acting out of fear rather than love. The core premise is that marriage is less

McMillan’s "The person you really need to marry" provides the philosophical foundation for this guide—marrying yourself first.