Books and guides like Lara Longstaff's Transgender Love Coach or sexual health resources focused on LGBTQ+ experiences offer a more grounded approach than standard adult films.

Porn typically features women with breast implants and a penis. In reality, trans women have diverse bodies; some have bottom surgery, some don't, and some do not use hormones at all.

Be upfront about your intentions. Avoid treating a partner as a "bucket list" item or a secret.

Using respectful language is the foundation for any positive interaction. A woman who was assigned male at birth.

Don't expect a trans person to be your teacher. Use resources like GLAAD's Transgender FAQ to learn the basics on your own.